Thursday, September 23, 2010
Monday, September 20, 2010
after the much awaited wedding day...it finally arrived. haha. after all the fuss and worries bout what to wear, where to buy, how to go....the day finally came last saturday. we had to wake up at 6+ am, even 5+ am for some to get ready and leave for melaka for the tea ceremony. arrived on time at the house and even bumped into the groom and his entourage at the toll rest area. haha. apparently they were asked to be slower in arriving.
the whole tea ceremony + lunch lasted bout 3 hours plus after which we headed to our rented apartment to wash up and rest before the dinner at 6.30pm. i took a nap and woke up to the noise outside. went out to see and wa-la! my cousins, sister, aunts and mum were busy curling each other's hair for the dinner. lol. we (including myself :p) all ended up at the dinner with the same hairstyles. hahaha. my curls went off fast though :p
my aunt and i were supposed to help out with the registration at the reception but we were a lil late so when we arrived i had to rush upstairs while my aunt went to park the car. oh my gosh, it was so confusing! :p with all names and the crowd. haha. then, dinner time came and all the usual toasting a.k.a yum-sing(s). almost to the last dish, they announced for the newly weds to have their first dance and then for the guests to join them. the guests went crazier after most ppl had left. most of the indian guests had a great time dancing their heart out. haha.
next morning, with my aunts, mum and grandma, i went to visit my grandma's sis-in-law in the old folks home whom she had not met for 5-6 years followed by breakfast (the reason i went :p). went back packed up and left melaka.
so....that was my weekend. an awesome one i would reckon =))
most of us have not uploaded any pics yet but once we do, i'll post some here if i feel like it :p
Friday, September 17, 2010
Wednesday, September 15, 2010
i had a great raya weekend the past week =)
started with the new harmony student house dedication on friday that led to the 'monopoly deal' addiction which kept us awake till 3 in the morning. lol. followed by early morning dim sum on saturday and continued with more monopoly deal :p came night was baby kimberley's fullmoon dinner.
finally, the climax of the weekend came...ta-da, shirley's indian wedding ceremony! :) you see, this is what i love bout my extended family, we're so 1malaysia. my mum has this huge family that consists of almost all the races and religions in malaysia and all these happy occasions bring the best out of this family. it's so heart warming to see how close knitted they are despite the differences. i'll let the pictures do what they do best :)
Monday, September 6, 2010
Wednesday, September 1, 2010
came across this video shared by someone on fb. dont know how true is this thing but it looks real considering you can't fake slaps like that. when i watched this video, i could not be any angrier and dont understand how the girl can just stand there and not do anything bout it. by doing so, she's actually giving more so-called power to that 'guy'. i would not tolerate such abuse. it's not like he's her parent. no guy should ever treat a girl like this.
i've always believed that a guy does not have any right to disrespect a girl in any way be it physically,mentally or verbally. first of all i think we all have to understand that while courting & dating, both the guy and girl have NO right whatsoever over the other party. even after marriage i still believe that the husband or wife has no 100% right or authority over his/her spouse. so who is it to say that you can control your partner's life when you're married much less dating. we have almost zero power to rule the another person's life according to our ways and make it miserable.
in a relationship of dating, i believe one can only suggest but not impose. if there's a change that you believe your partner should embrace, first suggest then help him/her through it and not trying to demand the change immediately and imposing it on them that it's a must and when they dont, we get angry and blame them for it. most times ppl fail to see that in the end it's still the person's choice, it's their life. there's only so much we can do but the choice is still for them to make and not for us to point the finger at them when they dont change to the person WE want them to be. it could be for the better but we're not in the position to force them rather we should be patient in guiding them through it.
such physical abuse as in the video should never happen in a healthy relationship that's filled with love and respect for one another. dont be mistaken, mental and verbal abuses are as bad. sometimes we think as long as we dont lay a finger on that person but we use harsh and demeaning words, it's not abuse. we're wrong. words can be as sharp as a double edged sword and sometimes it can hurt someone more than the physical abuse.
then you wonder, shouldn't we be building one another up with encouraging and loving words? and where is love in this picture? i thought love is....
patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. 1 Corinthians 13
the love mentioned above not only applies to BGR or married relationships but also to all the relationships we're engaged in our lives - parent-child, peer-peer, brother-sister, grandparent-grandchild, teacher-student, senior-junior, boss-employee, etc
haha. so this topic might be another of my random post but when i came across this video and so happened watch the episode of Glee last night where it was about respecting girls, i thought i wanted to blog bout this. hehe. so here it is.